How to introduce Siri to your family and friends

By , Aug 1, 2013

How to Tell Siri Your Relationships 1Apple’s virtual personal assistant, Siri, can do a lot for anyone who wants to ask for her help. She can schedule appointments, tell you who’s winning the game, and get you tickets to the late show, among other things.

One of the useful things that Siri can do is remember your relationships. Once you’ve told Siri who your wife is, you can ask her to send her a message. We have a basic tutorial to help you teach Siri who your family is…

Just as a reminder, we do these simple, basic tutorials every once in a while to help out our readers that are new to the iOS ecosystem. We know that many of our readers have known about Siri’s abilities for a long time, but this tutorial is for those who are still learning all there is to know about their iPhones and iPads. That being said, the first person to comment that everyone already knows this information owes me five bucks.

The easiest way to teach Siri about your family relationships is to tell her. Touch and hold the Home button until Siri’s iconic purple glowing microphone appears and makes a chime. Then say, “Call my mom.” Siri will then say, “ What is your mother’s name?” Say the full name of the contact you are assigning the relationship to and Siri will find the name and then say, “OK, do you want me to remember that [so-and-so] is your mother?”

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Then, when you want to call or send a message to your mom, just activate Siri and say, “Call my mom,” or “Send a message to my mom,” and Siri will know who you are talking about.

You can do this with all of your family members. You can add aunts, uncles, grandparents, children, and whomever you would like to assign a relationship to.

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Another way you can assign relationships is by adding them manually.

Step 1: Go to Contacts > Select your own name.

Step 2: Tap the “Edit” tab in the upper right corner.

Step 3: Scroll down to the section that shows relationship names, like “Mother,” “Father,” “Brother,” etc.

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Step 4: Tap the blue arrow next to a relationship assignment.

Step 5: Select a name from your contacts.

You can also customize the relationship label.

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Step 1: Tap the label portion of a relationship assignment.

Step 2: Select one of the listed labels. If you don’t see the relationship that you want to use, go to step 3.

Step 3: Tap “Add Custom Label” to create your own relationship.

Step 4: Enter a new label, like “Sister-in-Law,” or “Best Friend.”

Now, Siri will know who all of your relationships are. It’s too bad she can’t warn you when your mother-in-law is coming to visit. Maybe that will come with iOS 7.

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  • Tony Farrar

    Have you tested this in IOS 7 beta 4 ? I don’t get the same list of names as you do in the picture above

    • pegger1

      Did you miss the part about “Tap “Add Custom Label” to create your own relationship.”

      • Tony Farrar

        I tried that and it does not appear on mine I only get 3 choices “manager”, “Spouse” and “assistant”

      • Kevin Osborne

        Are you using iCloud Contacts, Google Contacts, or something else?

      • arslion

        i am using iCloud and same list is available as shown in screenshot above.. on iOS 6.1.2

      • Steve Woolf

        Me too… Only spouse, manager and assistant.

      • Kevin Osborne

        I had this problem with using Google Contacts, but I created my own contact on iCloud for myself and then just linked the contact to my Google Contacts one, added the relationships to the iCloud one, and that worked.

    • Samy060

      Got the full list as the screenshot above on iPhone 5 running iOS7 beta 4.

    • Lory Gil

      I have not tested it on iOS 7. I customized some of the names. For example, I made the sister-in-law and boyfriend label.

  • Linton Findlay

    i said to siri once, call me an ambulance. he now refers to me as ambulance

    • Lory Gil


  • Gorgonphone

    I never ever use siri and have infact disabled it and its daemons to save ram on my iPhone 5 and

  • Ted Forbes

    Not good enough, the usefulness of Siri must be more than this it must operate the phone not just check Google and calender.And now this another social network thing. I don’t want to teach Siri anything Siri should be made to learn on its own, habits, routs, conversations, names, locations, interest, etc, etc and it should ask me, tell me or alert me, The only thing I should do is switch it off or on. No good Apple and not good enough. Where is the wow Apple?

  • abdullah575

    i know this before 5 months !!!

    • Lory Gil

      You owe me five bucks.

      • abdullah575


      • Chris Gilmore

        Read the last sentence in the third paragraph, jackass.

      • Erny Carrillo

        Abdullah575 is one of those ppl that dont read the whole thing before commenting

  • Fabio Rodrigues

    and how to change relationships?

    ex, I have a brother and for some reason when I ask Siri to call him she gives me 2 options: “What brother do you wish to call: Joao DeCastro or João DeCastro?

    and I ask for Joao DeCastro she says that she doesnt have a number for him -_-* and I have just one entry for him on my contacts list, then I ask her to forget that Joao DeCastro is my brother and she says that she can’t