How to get task reminder when you message a person

Learn how to use the Apple Reminders app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac to get reminded about a task when you are messaging a particular person.

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Imagine you loaned your book to a friend and want to ask them to return it when you contact them the next time.

In this situation, you can add a to-do in the Reminders app, and the next time you message this person, you’ll be reminded to message them about your book.

This handy feature ensures you don’t forget about an important reminder involving that person.

Get a reminder when you message a person

1) Open the Reminders app on your iPhone, iPad, or Mac, create a new reminder, then tap the info button ⓘ next to the task name. We are using an iPhone for these steps.

2) Turn on the When Messaging switch and tap Select Contact.

Tap info button for reminder and enable When Messaging

3) Select the person from your saved contacts. Note that you cannot select more than one.

4) Tap the checkmark icon to save the reminder. On Mac, you can just click outside the pop-up area.

Select a contact for reminder alert on iPhone

5) The next time you chat with this selected contact in the Apple Messages app, the Reminders app will show you a notification alerting you about that task. You can swipe on the reminder notification to take relevant action, such as marking it as completed or choosing to be reminded about it later.

Reminder alert when messaging a person on iPhone

Unfortunately, this helpful feature only works in the Messages app. Third-party messaging apps such as Facebook Messenger or WhatsApp cannot be selected.

Alternatively, you can use Siri to set this kind of reminder. But Siri may not always figure this out and thus fail to set a reminder without the When Messaging option. Still, you can try it out by saying something along the lines of “Hey Siri, remind me when I’m messaging Tim Cook to ask him about future products,” and Reminders will automatically do the right thing. Keep the format of your query as close to “Remind me X when I am messaging with Y” as possible, and don’t use substitutes for the term “messaging,” or Siri may not get what you meant.

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